You can't be a musician without a day job and you can't be a musician if you're spending all your time at a day job. Sounds like a puzzle without an answer sometimes. You have to make money and you have to pay the bills and in a world full of competition and Spotify you have to make ends meet by slinging some booze on the side.
To be honest, I do enjoy bartending. It's a very social job, it pays pretty well most of the time and it has been the gateway to so many great relationships. It is great but it isn't what we want to do for the rest of our lives. There are only so many hours in the day and we are trying to plot a way to spend exponentially more doing music than not doing music.
It's all risk evaluation. We know where we want to get but we don't know how to get there. It will never be a clear path and all we can do it prepare ourselves as well as possible and hope for the best. At the end of the day we still need to jump out of the plane and just hope our parachutes work.